You sitting at the desk, palms are getting increasingly sweaty, your heart is beating faster than normal, you feel the veins in your head pounding as the blood is flowing faster and faster through them, then it happens………………..Ok Bradley your turn I stand up walk to the front of the room and proceed to present “So just what is a SMC Report” I check to see that all is in order the lighting is correct the visuals is setup best for the trainees the flip chart is in the right place and then face the girls and guys and start, the first 2 minutes are hectic but soon you fall in line and before you know it the “1 minute left card” is up and you need to wrap up the presentation there we go !! Done, you take up your seat and wait for the response from the trainees. Well that went well the response’s were good and you feel to yourself you did good Bradley, the session carries on with another presenter presenting there topic, once all done everyone is having a laugh about how difficult it was to present to your work colleagues, there are 10 of us all together each person is throwing in there own remark and chatting away, then it happens the thought is there I want to tell it to everyone but it wont come out ,damm it Bradley open your mouth add your bit !!!!! go on go on …………………..and then the topic changes and it is too late, TRAPPED…………..
Darn Paranoid22 Let me out why won’t you just let me out!! This carries on for the two days of training and then slowly lets up as things go back to normal. There has been research recently on Patients that were supposedly “Brain Dead” and what it showed was that if the brain was stimulated, although there was no bodily responses there was a response from the brain of this patient how this was done I am not exactly sure but with today’s technology I am sure it could be possible can you image this you trapped and there is absolutely no way to let someone know? I don’t think I can relate to that extent but I think I could relate to a certain degree ,being quite is some times the most frustrating thing that you personality can dish out to you ,the first thing is people start to “Label” you he’s weird ,he’s so quite, I don’t think he has any confidence the list go’s on and on why do people do this to a person ?and in some cases they don’t even know you or they have heard about you from a family member or colleague and boom they off judging you left right and centre , I tell you it’s not a walk in the park being the “quiet” one I think this letter kind of ties up with my previous one “Take a Look through my eyes” maybe I put a lot of people on the spot with this dare to share newsletter and I guess we all have our own “issues” for lack of a better word but damm people are far to quick to judge a person in this world we live in especially if you are quite.
Why do people do this ?? I am not sure maybe it’s the conditioning from a small child the way your parents always talked about people ,maybe it’s the way people are gauged in this world we live in so often you are judged by the car you drive where you live what position you hold, what your education is? Somehow I don’t think we will ever get away from this but ,I sure know in my mind that I need to make a change and not just talk the talk but walk the walk as I to jump on the band wagon to add my bit when it comes to judging. The problem is you are sometimes judged from a young age and a lot of the times you are relying on teachers and any body older than and so called “wiser” to take care of your kids and to uplift them and not judge and run them down but that is where the mistake lies when you become a parent in my eye’s you are the person that needs to look after and care and nurture this child not someone that you think has the ability’s or personality or the education God gave parents the knowledge to know what is right and wrong for your kids’ but no body uses it or very little at that ,and when you see someone treating your children in a nasty or judging way do you stand up for them oh yes you most certainly do ,but so often it is the people that we expect to “Do” the right thing when it comes to treating our children that
don’t. When a child is treated this way he or she may not be mature enough to understand why this is happening to them and it has a huge impact on the way they see the world an the people in it ,and so this warped sense of people starts getting created ,I remember this clearly from school teachers referring to
me as “The quite one over there” or what’s wrong with you , you never participate “ never once did they come up and say “and aren’t you going to give it a try young man” or say something a little more encouraging and this not only goes for school teachers but for family and friends as well. Just when you entrust you child to the one you think is going to do the right think ….well you guessed it they turn out not to be the correct ones to have chosen.
This can have a big impact on your life into the future as not many adults take the time to think just what impact did I have on that child when I made him cry, or when I ran him down ,and then the famous words “ I was only kidding” no pun intended when they are questioned what a load of hog wash “ I was only kidding” they were not ,this is sometime’s done on purpose and again what real impact did it have on the child.
Well time goes on and these issues stick with you ask me I know to this day people still refer to me as the quite one and there is no problem with that as I am the quite one but they also associate all the other things with that and are completely wrong about me ,so my question is this? when that inner person wants to come out in a small child let it it may be a little shy at first but encourage it and soon with enough motivation it will and it will shine don’t shut the door on it as this only makes it worse and worse as time goes by and by then the labeling has started.
Paranoid22
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Hi Brad, I agree with you on a lot of what you have said. People are quick to judge. Where you were born, brought up, by who, how your parents lived - all these things affect how children are judged. And yes, by adults, the people that are supposed to be older, wiser and know better. It is a shame, but unexcusable to be done by parents, that in this day and age know the effects that negative words/actions etc have on children and their outlook in life. Parents should teach their children to be less judgemental of their peers. But as you said, difficult when we live in times where what car you drive is more important than the fact that you even have a car!
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